Dynamic Eating Psychology
We live in a world and a culture where our bodies, our image and our weight influence so many of our decisions about what foods we eat, when we eat and how we eat. We can end up on a round about of dieting, emotional eating, overeating, or feeling guilt and shame for not getting where we want to go. Our relationship with food is complex and is woven into many other aspects of our lives.
As a certified Eating Psychology Coach and Aromatherapist-in-training, I use dynamic eating psychology, mind body nutrition principles and essential oils to help my clients break negative patterns of thinking around body image and disordered eating habits.
I want to inspire you to find the freedom for joyful living and joyful eating.
Many of our eating behaviours are based on beliefs or fears that are unconscious to us, established from our early food experiences, conversations around our dinner tables in childhood and the values and beliefs of those around us.
Why is it that when it comes to utility companies and other large service providers the common saying is 'don't treat me like a number', yet when it comes to the numbers on the scales and on our clothing we tend to reduce ourselves to a number. So much so that for many of us, when we see the number as higher than we deem acceptable, we are already telling ourselves that we're unworthy or setting an internal intention to have a bad day, but if that number is lower, we equate that to better and we have a spring in our step.
Our relationship with food is a reflection of other relationships in our lives. It is these areas that become wonderful doorways for us to walk through to help us discover the things that can cause our discomfort around food, body image or weight. As women, one of the most impactful doorways to walk through for exploration is how our relationship with food is a mirror of our relationship with our mothers.
Just a few years ago, I remember getting to the end of Summer and thinking ‘oh I wish I had gone swimming’, having spent another Summer avoiding both the beach and the pool because I felt that I was too large, that I took up too much space, that my legs were not tanned enough, that everyone would be looking at me and disapproving. I was determined that I would only go again once my body was ‘good enough’ to be seen in swimmers in public. And I would regret it each Summer.
I've noticed lately that we have a bit of a habit of commenting about the weight of friends and family as a way to compliment them - "You look like you've lost weight"
How often do you take the time to feel what it’s like to be in your body? Not just the feelings of aches and pains you might experience, but the feelings of how your breath moves through your body, the expansion of your belly or lungs when you inhale, the way your body moves when you do?
I remember a time when I stopped buying food that I thought was bad, knowing that I couldn’t keep it in the house without eating it – or thinking about eating it.
I would buy say a bag of potato chips, serve myself just a small amount and put the rest in the pantry. But then it felt like the pantry was calling me, the chips were saying ‘eat me’, I couldn’t leave the rest of the bag.
What does freedom look like to you?
If you weren't thinking about what to eat, when to eat, worried about what you looked like, whether you were good enough (hint: you already are). If you were to break away from dieting, from checking the scale each day and letting the number control your calorie intake or your mood, from your guilt around eating things you think are ‘bad’ for you, what would life look like?